The “New Economy”
Lately, so much of what we’ve been hearing about the economy has been daunting. It can give a person a feeling of helplessness. It’s not that I don’t care about the big 3 carmarkers going under, the millions of people who have lost their jobs, big businessess going under, or the number of foreclosed homes that keep raising, but what “grinds my gears” is the way it’s being reported. If you pay attention to the way news is reported you will notice that the media tends to focus on the negative. If often gives very little in the way of facts but provides lots of opinion. Why is it so difficult for the media to balance it’s reporting with solutions and strategies to get through these tough economic times? Though most of us have our theories, we’ll likely never know the full answer to that question. What I do know, however, is that if one third of what they report on focuses on solutions, I gaurantee, it will not only change consumer confidence but the economy will “fix” itself.
The daunting news is going to continue with even grimmer speculations for the first half of 2009. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to continue allowing all of the negative reporting to determine the faith of your life, or are you going to take control by rejecting the belief that all is grim and focusing on some sure-fire solutions to help you and your family get through the tough times?
From my analysis, if you’re not in the top 3 % of the population in terms of wealth, your economic livelihood is doomed because it is directly tied to the “bad” economy. To some extent that is true, we can’t deny the fact that many of us work for someone else for a living and if your company is impacted by the economy there’s a great chance you will not have a job, therefore, affecting your economic condition. However, your economic condition isn’t just tied to your employment, it is greater than that. It is your ability, capacity, skills and talents that you can capitalize on to develop a new approach to your economic survival. Once you understand that you are not limited by your employment status, you can take control of your life by limiting your dependence on the economy.
The “New Economy” is an economy that is driven by your individual choice, a shift in prespective and development of sustainable resources. It means changing the way you are currently living your life from the types of goods and products you consume, to the food you eat and the types of activities in which you engage. It may mean limiting your consumption which will decrease your spending, and investing in quality resources that yield high sustainable returns. No, I’m not talking about traditional investments such as stocks, bonds, CDs, etc. I’m talking about people. Yes, believe it or not your friends, family, associates are quality resources. You can harness their time, skills, expertise, strengths to develop systems that are mutually beneficial and highly sustainable to your quality of life.
The “New Economy” means less focus on money and more focus on human potential and human connection. Sound far fetched to you? Well, consider this. All across the USA there are people living in communities that are almost completely independent of the economy. They do not consume foods that are mass produced and instead grow their own food. Their homes are powered by solar energy. They live amongst other peopole that support their other phsyiological needs such as social interaction and acceptance. Now sure this may sound a bit extreme for most, but it’s a great example of how we have the ability to control how much of an impact the economy has on our lives.
The “New Economy” means your choice between meeting a need or fullfilling a want. It means changing your perception of what’s important. Ask yourself, is that $50,000 car a need, or a desire? especially if you can only afford a $20,000 car. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with giving in to your desires every once in a while. Our desires make us human. But to thrive and not just survive in these times requires smart decision-making and perhaps the temporary sacrifice of a dream/desire.
In this “New Economy” the measure of success isn’t about your financial status, or fame. It is about your economic literacy and knowledge of creating effective systems that have a positive and wide-range impact on other’s lives. It is about changing your relationship with money by understanding it’s true purpose, an instrument use for exchange of goods, services, products, not the measurement of success.
The New Economy is offered as a workshop. Contact me for more details at info@indigocoachingsystems.com.
Count Me In!
September 30, 2008 by icscoach · Leave a Comment
I’m a person who’ve served my country and community. I spent twenty years in the military and served as a volunteer coach for the little league baseball team in my community.
One day I had devastating news that changed my life forever. I learned that my wife of 30 years died suddenly and to no avail the autopsy did’not provide any reasons for her death. Soon after I buried my wife, I got extremely depressed and I stopped living. You see my wife was my life, she kept me motivated, inspired and alived.
Who will be that person to assure me that it’s a dream when I have vivid images of the horrors of war? Who was going to cook my favorite dish using the right blend of herbs and spices, or fill the room with scents of jasmin and ginger?
You see, there was no one, and even if so, I would have refused to let her take that role. So I stopped living altogether, I stopped working, stopped bathing, stopped paying my bills, after all why? I couldn’t convinced myself anymore of the importance of these things? In my mind, they were unecessary and I felt like I didn’t need these things any more. Soon after her death it became unbearable for me to live in my house any longer as memories of her were everwhere. I stopped paying the mortgage and lost it to the bank.
A year after her death, I still found myself longing, needing her love and attention. Everyone around me told me to move on, there were other things to live for, but I couldn’t. I just didn’t have the strength or desire to live anymore.
It has now been twenty years since her death and I still grieve the lost of my wife, who was my best friend and my love. I sometimes wish for her memory to be erased from my mind, at least I would be released from the pain and maybe I could put my life back together. But her memory still lives on like it was just yesterday.
Who am I you may ask? You may have met me before and didn’t recognized me. You might have passed me in the streets and turned your face away from me because you couldn’t stand the sight or even the smell of me. You may have even thought when you saw me, get a job, get clean up, get off of drugs, do something worthwhile with your life.
You see, I am one of the millions of homeless people living in America with a story. I am a person just like you, but I’ve suffered a terrible lost in my life and never recovered from it. I’m the homeless man who sits on the corner everyday dreaming that one day my best friend will be returned to me.
Don’t feel sorry for me because it was my choice that got me here, just count me in and remember my brothers and sisters. They too are people with personal stories. Some more devastating, others not so devastating, just poor choices.
Count me in and the millions of young children all across the world that are loosing their parents to AIDs, war, terriosm and senseless violence.
Count me in when you’re spending your money on things you don’t need, but want. Think about giving it to a charity that addresses these types of issues.
Count me in when you’re shopping for clothes. Buy an extra pair for my little sister who’s running around in a disease infested street in one of the poorest country of the world, Haiti.
Count me in by supporting the organization that removes land mines from fields so my little brother can play without the threat of danger.
Count me in when you’re buying food. Support a church or organization that feeds families in need.
Just count me in, either in your thoughts or actions.
The “Bad” Economy: Where’s the Good News?
September 23, 2008 by icscoach · Leave a Comment
Everyday the news reports on what’s wrong with the American economy. Whether it is about the stock market crashing, the housing market plummeting, large financial institutions such as Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac, Merrill Lynch going under, consumer confidence being low, or unemployment increasing, the news is letting us know how bad things are for the American people.
I can’t help to feel discourage when I listen to all that’s wrong with the economy. There is an internal conflict that goes on every time I hear how crappy things are. The struggle goes something like this. The monologue from my conscious, logical and rational self says: well Deborah, things are gettting worst and there isn’t anything you can do about it. It is bigger than you, you might as well accept the enevitable and start changing your course of action. No need for hope or optimism, the economy is what it is and there’s nothing you can do that will make it better. However, contrary to my conscious self, my spiritual self vehemently refutes this and label it as noise. It refuses to allow me to give in and just accept the way things are. Actually, it doesn’t allow me to hold on to this thinking for more than a minute. My spiritual self keeps reminding me that there is always hope, there is always another alternative, and there are choices.
So I ask what choice does a person has who is either facing foreclosure, has no retirement, no health insurance for a sick love one, or no money to feed, cloth and keep a roof over their children’s head? How do you convince them that they are choices, alternatives, or even opportunities, especially when they are in the mist of a crisis? I may not have the right answer, but there is something to say about a person’s will to survice, a person’s faith in something bigger and more powerful than themself, something that goes beyond their own rational thought and reason, something that can transform systems and people, something that perform miracles when they need them the most.
And that is what we do in times of dier need and despair, we keep the faith, we create our own good news and we look for the smallest blessings in our lives and be grateful for them. We look for guidance from within and don’t put much emphasis on the Bad News that keeps bombarding us. And if we are the victims of such bad news, we look for the one small good that is in it. Whatever we do, we don’t give in and we don’t give up. We hear stories of people defying the odds, people that have survived horrible situations. The two common elements in these stories are they never gave up, or a miracle happened. You know, it blows my mind everytime when I hear there are survivors of a plane crash. The only explanation in my mind is a miracle.
It’s okay to feel discourage, even hopeless, but we shouldn’t give in to these feelings and allow them to control our actions. We can begin to make better choices with the little resources we have and begin to tap our creativity for new ways for living a better life.
The current economy is a living nightmare for some of us, but we can control some aspect of that nightmare by making better choices everyday. We can eat out less, find natural health remedies for our sick love one, spend less on entertainment outside of the house and introduce some of our childhood games to our children. Read more, watch less television, turn off the light when we leave the room, drink more water instead of fruit juices and sodas, buy in bluk, open up a window instead of turning on the AC, or cook more meals at home.
You may say, this is a simplistic approach to complex problems and I may even agree. I’m not saying this will change the economy or your situation now, but it gives you choices, however minute they are, which may place you in a stronger financial position in the long-run.
So have I taken some of my own advice? Yes, my husband and I agreed to eat out as a family only once a week, and he is now taking breakfast and lunch at least three times a week to work. We’ve cut at least $70 off our weekly expenses, which amounts to $3640 per year. We are taking a prevention approach to our health and is undergoing a natural cleansing for 30 days. We are also reading more with our son and finding creative ways for us to have fun as a family without spending lots of money. We buy what we need and reward ourselves accordingly. We are simplifying our life in drastic ways, resulting in less dependency on the economy and less burden on our planet.
And even with feelings of discouragement when I hear all this bad stuff at times, my faith lives on and I create my own Good news.
I would love to hear how you are couping with the “bad” economy, post your comments here:
When you look in the Mirror what do you see?
July 23, 2008 by icscoach · Leave a Comment
One of my clients is writing her memoir and shared a chapter with me. I was truly touched when I read it; so much so that I wanted to post it on my blog. I thought if it touched me so deeply, maybe it would touch you too.
Memoirs of a women after God’s heart:
Everything was crystal clear. My career was on track, I knew what I wanted to do with my life and I knew God’s purpose for my life. For much of my life my dream was to become a director, president or vice president of someone’s company. I longed for the five meeting days, long hours and late nights at the office. As I progressed in my career and aged, I decided I wanted to have my own company and/or a non-profit. Again, along with that would come long hours and late nights. For as long as I remember I have always lived my life five years ahead. I never saw where I was now my only concern was where I was going or what I could be until one day someone asked me “what do you see when you look in the mirror?
The mirror is a reflection of who you are not just how you look physically, but the mirror allows you to look deep into your soul and spirit and discover what your strengths, your fears and the your weaknesses. That day in the mirror I saw a future size 6, successful, powerful woman, who spent her days walking with God. In the same mirror, I saw a young lonely, chubby girl longing for acceptance, and scared of rejection. But what I did not see is who I was at the moment. I did not see all the good that others saw. I did not see success or beauty. It seemed as if there was a gap between the past and the future, there was no present. For many years, I professed knowing and walking with God, but that day I realized that you cannot walk with God if you are absent from the present. In the chapter of Matthew, Jesus said “Don’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow is not promised to you”.
That is the question that changed my life and at that point I became a woman after God’s heart.
5 Tidbits to Move Forward
October 1, 2007 by icscoach · Leave a Comment
I attended a networking event where Mrs. Cinnamon Bowser, Founder of NailTaxi, which is listed as one of the fastest-growing small businesses in America was the keynote speaker. The event was hosted by the Synergi Group. In her keynote address entitled: Moving Forward, Mrs.Bowser chronicled her story of how NailTaxi came into existence and shared 5 Tidbits for Moving Forward. I think the 5 Tidbits, which follow this sentence, are very practical and applicable, not just for business owners, but for others who want to move forward in their lives.
Tidbit 1: Make a decision: This is perhaps the most difficult thing anything one who wants to move from where they are now to where they want to be, will do. I remembered for several months deliberating over resigning from what I considered then, a “good” job and starting my business. It wasn’t an easy decision, and it took a tremendous amount of courage and faith to quit, but I took a leap of faith and ventured out. Mrs. Bowser made a valid point when she said “if you don’t make a decision, you are sitting on the fence, and you can’t move forward”. A decision empowers you to move forward. It shows your commitment to whatever you want to focus on or give priority to.
Tidbit 2: Think Big: I remember when I started my business I asked myself the question, how many clients do I need to generate income and will allow me to continue my financial contribution to my household? The number I came up with was relatively low, and for a while, I was very satisfied with it because I didn’t want more than what I could handle. However, I soon realized that the number didn’t provide me with what I needed to grow my business and participate in other kinds of professional development events. It became apparent that I was limiting myself. As you can imagine, I changed that number quickly and soon after hearing Mrs. Bowser’s 5 Tidbits, that number quadrupled. I entered into the realm of possibility thinking, into the model of abundance and got rid of the model of scarcity, which was what I had been operating on. Thinking big enables you to paint a picture of what you want, regardless of how you will get there.
Tidbit 3: Find products and services that support your business: As business owners, we should seek out services and/or products that enhance and benefit our business. However, this can be overwhelming because it requires that we do more than what we are currently doing. It may also become a challenge for us, given our limited resources such as time, money, and/or personnel. But if we shift our prospective into possibility thinking, we may find that our work may become easier and even grow because of them.
Tidbit 4: Find a cheerleader/develop a support system: As a coach, I serve as a cheerleader for my clients, so who are my cheerleaders, or support system? My support system consists of my husband, my mother, my brother, my sister, friends, associates, and other entrepreneurs. These individuals not only provide moral, financial and physical support, but they also challenge me to think “outside of the box”. My husband is perhaps my biggest cheerleader of them all. His creative, logical, rational and artistic mind helps me to see things in new and meaningful ways. This has served my business well. If you don’t currently have a support system or cheerleaders, find them.
Tidbit 5: Recognized and conquer Your Fears: Mrs. Bowser shared how terrified she was to make an initial call to a potential partner that was going to move her business forward. And when she told the story, the entire audience, which was primarily made up of all women entrepreneurs, made a unified sound of agreement. It was like a you too moment that loudly echoed in the room. The fact of the matter is we all have fears they are a part of our human nature. In some ways, fear is a good thing, it protects us and warns us from danger, but many times there isn’t any danger a head. More times than often the danger is a false perception appearing real in our minds. Mrs. Bowser said that “fear can be crippling if we give in to it”. Conquer your fears by making one bold decision that will move your business forward.
In closing, this very dynamic speaker and entrepreneur, motivated and challenged me to move forward in bold and innovative ways.